As a mother fighting to remove child molesters from our neighborhoods - not only putting them in prison but requiring counseling and mandatory programs (or there won't be any chance of rehab and we will continue with our high recidivism rate) and someone who believes very strongly in educating our children and families about "appropriate" touch and "not keeping secrets"..... I have to say, there are days and times I wonder if we have all just lost the ability to use common sense or to make a punishment fit the crime.
People are not all "one size fits all" and neither are their circumstances and behaviors. We can not expect every "round peg" to fit into some "square hole" just because that is the "rule". Where did we get the idea that everything is black and white with no shades of gray in between? When did we stop thinking for ourselves and begin to follow cookie cutter patterns?
Where did our common sense go???
My story begins two days ago at our elementary school. The youngest had just finished a program on good / bad touch (which I'm not all in favor of since some bad touch does feel good but that's for another day). There is a substitute teacher.
Two hours after viewing this educational movie - with only the sub as a guidance person on the issue - a group of girls are goofing around. A little boy drops his pencil. The girls pick it up. Laughing, giggling, teasing, they hold the pencil high and the play begins. In the middle of this adventure, the 7 year old boy touches a girls leg and then her chest.
(now let me tell you I have been in close lines of people where I have whipped around to talk to the kids or something and accidentally hit a lady behind me in the chest - nice and hard with a hand or elbow..... embarrassing - definitely, sexual harassment?)
Anyway, girls tell teacher boy touched "inappropriately" and well sub takes boy to principal - huge mountain out of a mole hill / accident during play...and boy now has a one time strike on his record for inappropriate play / conduct.
WTH? Again I ask - where is our common sense?? Can we not allow children to be children? And then who reacts when something "bad" truly does happen? Have we taken some of this too far without fixing the true problem? I am just beyond words on these types of punishments - and I know this isn't the first case of over reaction when it comes to a "no tolerance" policy....PLEEEEEAZE.....
Love to hear your thoughts...
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